Love is restorative.
Love fills you with inner peace.
Did you feel very strongly prior to meeting your significant other that your ” best friend” and/or your family were abusive to you? Did you have plans to end the relationship with them? If not, then even though your significant other seemed to be supportive, what they are (did or will be) doing is isolating you for their own needs.
HELPFUL HINT: You know how, when you truly love someone, whether it’s a person or even a pet, you can get really angry at them, yet despite the anger, you still feel love for them? There is a loving connection beyond behavior and circumstances. That’s healthy unconditional love. While doing so probably comes quite naturally to you, it’s important to realize that it is not natural to everyone. The ability to see other people at a deeper level requires the ability to see ourselves at a deeper level. It’s not something everyone can do. The basis for it is EMPATHY. Everyone has empathy, but some are not able to operate it.
There are people who, for whatever reason that is uniquely their own, are only able to love in a controlling manner. They use subtle emotional manipulation to control and ( they believe) ensure a stable, secure, loving relationship for themselves and you. Through isolating you ( bonding to only them) and through subtle covert emotional manipulation they will change your behavior ( ( by slowly causing you to change your thoughts, words, and actions) so that you only display adoration of and for them. You will not be validated by being able to maintain your own sense of self. In fact, they will soon be EMOTIONALLY INVALIDATING YOU.
One woman said it like this:
“If you ask them whether they love someone, they might well say “yes”.
Translation: “Yes, I love this person when they do what I want them to”.
KEEP READING JUST TO MAKE SURE THERE AREN’T INVISIBLE DOTS THAT YOU SHOULD BE CONNECTING.
YOU CAN’T IMAGINE?
There is a type of person that is attracted to strong, competent, self-sufficient people with a strong sense of responsibility and moral fiber. They do not want someone needy or someone anyone could have. They have to be a “trophy”, and confident enough to keep their ego-supply coming.
The more self-sufficient and confident you are, the more determined this person will be to “break”, or ” train” you. If they can, making you totally dependent on them is the ultimate in “love” to them.
Doubt It’s Your Reality?
I know when you first see them you might doubt reality.
This is the start of COMING BACK TO REALITY. I hope if you see them in your life, you will leave and help others see them.
No one has ever regretted leaving the invisible dots.
You weren’t expected to recognize this kind of manipulation
No one expects you to recognize this kind of manipulation or to understand why someone whom you loved freely would want to control you.
Please keep reading, just to be sure it’s not happening- because people don’t see the invisible dots for years. They are harmed up to the day they see them, and once they see them, they can’t be unseen.
Keep reading to make sure.